Is being surrounded by negative thoughts and people is preventing you from where you want to be in life? Then this episode is for you. Today I’m going to be giving you actual strategies on how you can begin purging negativity starting right away. At the end of this episode, you’ll have all the tools and mindset shifts. You need to be free to have negativity moving forward and to be more positive.
As a coach and motivational speaker who has more or less built an entire brand around positivity, I know a thing or two about reframing negative thinking In fact, in a recent poll when I asked my fans them what Corrie Lo means to them, overwhelmingly the response back was positivity.
Tuning out the negative thoughts of those around me. And as a result, I’ve been able to really see the positive and pretty much any situation that comes my way. I’m going to share with you exactly how I’ve gone about doing this on the episode today.
Today we’re going to be covering three things. First, why it’s important to eliminate negativity. Second, how to eliminate your own negative thinking or negative thoughts. And third, how to eliminate other people’s negativity.
Why It’s Important To Eliminate Negativity From Your Life
Just kick it to the curb, say farewell, see you later.
It’s just not worth it to happen in your life and this is why first up it drains your energy.
It keeps you stuck. The more negative you are, the less likely you are to see other opportunities around you to get out of your stuckness more or less so you don’t see other opportunities to be able to move your life forward in a better direction. So you just instead ruminate on all the negative stuff going on in your life and you stay stagnant.
It also beats down on your self-esteem. The most negative people are the ones that have the least amount of self-confidence. So if you’re looking to build up your self-confidence, positive thinking is a great way to go about it.
And lastly, negative thinking brings down everyone around you so you having your own stuck energy is actually going to affect the energy of everybody else that you love and care for. And no one wants to be that person, right? Not you.
So let’s talk about how we’re going to change that. To dive into how to eliminate the negativity from your life, watch, listen, or read the transcript of today’s episode
00:00 And being surrounded by negative thoughts and people is preventing you from where you want to be in life. Then this episode is for you. Today I’m going to be giving you actual strategies on how you can begin purging negativity starting right away. At the end of this episode, you’ll have all the tools and mindset shifts. You need to be free to have negativity moving forward and to be more positive.
00:28 My name is Corrie Lo Guidice and I’m a coach and motivational speaker who has more or less built an entire brand around positivity. In fact, in a recent poll, almost all my followers, when I asked them what Corrie Lo, just my name, that’s to them overwhelmingly the response back was positivity. But recently I’ve been able to maintain my own positivity is because over the years I realized that anytime that I was in a very negative thinking mindset that it just was not sustainable for me personally. Just from an energetic standpoint for me to be negative, it actually dragged down my energy. So the point where it just didn’t make any sense for me to be investing that energy into negativity and I wanted to purposefully instead try to be more positive. So I learned how to eliminate my own negative thoughts as well and to kind of.
01:21 tuning out the negative thoughts of those around me. And as a result, I’ve been able to really see the positive and pretty much any situation that comes my way. I’m going to share with you exactly how I’ve gone about doing this on the episode today. Before we dive into this episode. Inspirational and motivational content keeps you going. Definitely stop really quick right now and hit subscribe because that way you’ll be updated the next time a new episode airs. All right, so let’s dive into today’s show. Today we’re going to be covering three things. First, why it’s important to eliminate negativity. Second, how to eliminate your own negative thinking or negative thoughts. And third, how to eliminate other people’s negativity. All right, so let’s talk about why it’s important to eliminate negativity from your life. Just kick it to the curb, say farewell, see you later.
02:09 It’s just not worth it to happen in your life and this is why first up it drains your energy. So like I was mentioning before, for me it just was not worth it to feel like a curmudgeon all the time. I didn’t like who it made me, I didn’t like how it made me interact with other people and it was just soul-sucking. If you want to have more energy in your life, trying to become more positive is definitely a great way to go about that next step. It keeps you stuck. So the more negative you are, the less likely you are to see other opportunities around you to get out of your stuckness more or less so you don’t see other opportunities to be able to move your life forward in a better direction. So you just instead ruminate on all the negative stuff going on in your life and you stay stagnant.
02:53 Who wants to be stagnant? Next up it beats down on your self esteem. Who here has ever a super confident person who wasn’t positive? I’d say pretty much narrower in general. The most negative people are the ones that have the least amount of self confidence. So if you’re looking to build up your self-confidence, positive thinking is a great way to go about it. And lastly, negative thinking brings down everyone around you so you having your own stuck energy is actually going to affect the energy of everybody else that you love and care for. And no one wants to be that person, right? Not you. So let’s talk about how we’re going to change that. All right, so now we’re going to dive into how to eliminate the negativity from your life. But first off, I want you to remember two things. First, remember, thoughts are just thoughts.
03:43 thinking doesn’t exist necessarily in real life. Usually, we are thinking in a negative pattern of things that are going to happen in the future or what’s not going to happen for us in the future. And in all actuality, the future ain’t here yet. So remember a negative thought is just a negative thought. Also, remember what that in mind, you choose your thoughts. So if you’re choosing negative thoughts, you could just as easily choose positive thoughts and we’re going to talk about how to exactly go about that. But remember the choice is always yours. All right, so let’s talk about how you get over your own negativity. First step and I talk about this a lot in many of my videos and that’s becoming more self-aware. So how exactly do you become more self-aware? Here’s a few of my favorite tactics that I’ve talked about to do that.
04:28 First, learn to meditate by learning to quiet your mind, and it’s actually a process by purposefully trying not to think. You’re going to notice all the thoughts that do pop into your head because the whole purpose of it is to try to eliminate the thoughts, right? So by becoming aware of what’s coming into your mind, it’s easier to then be able to identify in what’s coming into your mind, what is a positive or a negative thought, and then you’re really going to want to hone in on the negative ones to be able to do the next step in exactly how we’re going to reframe that. Thinking another great way to become more self-aware. It’s just our journaling each and every day. Take some time and just free write what you’re feeling about your life situation and what’s going on around you. And in general, as you read stuff moving forward, you’re going to notice whether or not it comes across in your writing as being a positive or negative situation.
05:17 So that’s another really, really great way to become self-aware of what you’re really feeling and what you’re actually thinking. And lastly, ask for constructive feedback. Ask your friends in your family if it’s something that concerns you, that you might be a negative thinker. Ask those around you for their honest feedback because more than likely if somebody asks you whether or not you felt that they were negative or not and they were dragging your energy down on a regular basis, you more than likely we’re going to be honest with them, especially when they’re showing initiative that they want to be better, right? So pull your friends and family, ask them what they feel your thinking patterns are like. And then from there, it gives you a better perspective. See what you could do moving forward to be able to kind of become more positive and take on higher imagery.
06:04 So after you become more self-aware, then the next part is to be able to purposely identify winning negative thought is coming into your mind through your journaling and through your meditation and stuff like that. This should become much, much easier to be able to process. And from there, once you identify a negative thought, it’s really as simple as acknowledging the negative thought. Be appreciative. It’s okay that it’s there. Don’t beat yourself up for having a negative thought. It’s there for a reason because you have some kind of self-doubt or something else that’s behind you thinking in that negative way. So try to honor that. And then lastly, and this is where the muscle memory comes in, I’m more or less you need to replace that negative thought with the exact opposite positive. So for example, if you think, I’m never going to get a different job and get out of this soul-sucking career, the positive version of that would be, I am going to get out of this job.
06:58 And I’m going to find my dream career, right? So just literally replace the negative with positive and more and more you do this as you become more self-aware and as you start replacing more of your negative thoughts with positive ones, eventually because it takes less energy to be more positive, you’re going to automatically default to the more positive thinking. And lastly, another great thing that you could do to help with your negative thinking is to adopt a gratitude practice. I did an entire video on my five minutes solution to helping with depression, uh, which we’ll go ahead and we’ll link in the video over here. But really the whole basis of that solution is creating a gratitude practice. And it’s as simple as every single day when you wake up, before you actually get out of bed. So about five minutes to think about what it is that you are grateful for in that day.
07:48 By doing this as a daily practice every single day and forcing yourself to actually look for the good in your life. It makes you, as you move throughout the day, watches out for the good things when they happen, which helps you reframe your thinking to being more positive that more good things are happening to you. What’s self-inflicted negativity in your life has been the hardest to deal with. Leave a comment below on the blog or on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube, and then that way we can all kind of contribute solutions together. So dealing with our own negativity is one thing. How do you go about dealing with other people’s negativity? That’s an entirely different animal and I’m going to go through some strategies to help with that now. And if negativity in the workplace is something that you’re especially concerned about, be sure to stick around to the very, very end of this episode where I talk about how to handle that type of negativity specifically.
08:34 All right, so how do you go about dealing with other people’s negativity? Here’s a few things that I would consider if I was in your position first you need to get really, really clear on how the other person’s negativity affects you. So very, very similar to the exercise we did earlier for determining your own self-awareness. When it comes to negativity, you do the same exact exercise when comes to other people’s negativity, so journal free, right? Meditates, get really, really clear on how their negativity affects you because you need to be able to effectively communicate to them how it’s damaging you in some way, shape or form. Then from there, you need to decide what your boundaries are going to be regarding their negativity. Are you going to tell them, Hey, if you continue this thought pattern, I’m not going to talk to you anymore, or are you going to limit your amount of time with them or are you maybe not going to participate in specific activities?
09:28 You need to decide what this looks like for you. From there, you’re going to need to communicate with the negative person on number one, how their negativity makes you feel. And number two, what needs to happen in order for you to continue the relationship. Right? And a lot of instances, you know, for example, with family, we can’t necessarily pick our family. So we need to be very, very careful with how we broach these conversations. But being very clear and upfront on how their negativity impacts you, often we’ll have a more positive reaction because people ultimately don’t want to hurt somebody or bring somebody down in general, right? So being able to effectively communicate how it’s impacting you and what you’re doing in your life may be able to encourage somebody to, to change in order to be able to meet whatever it is your boundaries are.
10:15 Now everybody has choices, right? So you’re, you can effectively communicate with them what your boundary is and how their negativity is affecting you. Be prepared for them to be able to have the same open dialogue with you as well. Maybe you know, they truly believe in their negativity and that’s coming from a genuine place. It’s then up to you to decide whether or not you’re going to uphold your boundary. So if somebody is negative and cannot help being negative, then it’s really on you to decide how much exposure you’re going to give yourself in that situation with that person. So being means scaling back, the amount of time that you spend with them, it may mean cutting them out of your life altogether. Lord knows I’ve had many people in my life that due to their negativity, I just stopped spending time with them. You know, I communicated beforehand.
11:04 You know why I was doing it, not just to go somebody, but you’d be very, very upfront in your communications and what you need because ultimately relationships are a two-way street. Also, remember there’s that famous saying, you are the sum of the five people that you spend the most time with. So at the five people, you’re spending the most time with are super negative. Then it’s no wonder why you’re negative two. So if you want to change that, you need to change the people that you’re surrounding yourself with. So it may be time to Marie condo, your friendship circle. All right, so talking about the workplace, this is a little bit more unique because ultimately, and if you’re in a negative toxic work environment, you know, ultimately you either want to keep your job or you’re going to have to leave your job. So let’s kind of talk through that really quick.
11:46 So overall, if the negativity is ingrained in the culture of the organization, meaning that every single person that you work with, uh, in some way, shape or capacity is generally negative. That’s not something you’re ever going to necessarily be able to outrun. You can communicate as much as you want about how it affects you and doing your job and stuff like that. But if that’s an overall part of the company culture, you’re going to have a very difficult time overcoming all that negativity with just your positivity. So you may want to consider maybe looking at some additional opportunities that may be a better fit for your mindset when it comes to a career environment or a corporate environment. Now, if it’s one specific person that you’re working with who’s ultimately negative and they don’t respond to the boundaries that you communicate and how they’re communicating with you, there’s a few different ways that you can go about it.
12:37 First and foremost, you’re going to have to be able to basically deflect their negativity and not to absorb it as your own because remember what we talked about earlier and negative thought is just a thought. Just because it’s their thought doesn’t mean you have to absorb it as your own. Remember to keep very, very clear mental boundaries that their thought is their own thought and that’s not necessarily what you think and you don’t have to agree with it and just kind of let them do their own thing. If it comes up that there’s an opportunity to discuss with a superior as part of her view when they ask about your environment, depending on how you feel, there are always opportunities for you to bring up how the negative, toxic acidity of the environment is affecting your work. Ultimately that’s up to you. And if you find that you’re getting nowhere as far as overcoming the negativity in your workplace, then it’s up to you to kind of find a new opportunity to go and work elsewhere.
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